Rules For Fair Fighting
- Speaking one at a time
- Looking for compromises
- Trying not to generalize
- Allowing for time-outs and breathers
- Observing rules that you set
- No forcing, No hitting, No threats
- Showing personal respect
- Being honest with yourself and them
- Giving your reasons
- Admitting when you are wrong
- Allowing equal time to speak
Unfair Behavior:
- Name calling
- Opening old wounds, dredging up the past
- Intimidating, coercing or threatening
- Changing the rules and not saying so
- Expecting there to be a winner and a loser
- Saving up gripes to dump them all at once
- Reading the other’s mind
- Denying the facts
- Using sex as leverage
- Using violence of any kind
- Appearing to ignore your partner