Change is always possible-- it will
require some different ways of looking at problems, some different
ways of handling problems, as well as noticing when change
actually occurs.
Couples inevitably get stuck in many patterns. They continue to do the same things over and
over. They even know that they're stuck, but feel unable to change. When
they begin to talk about the problems, they also begin to recognize the
patterns. This gets them closer to change. The key to change is
remembering that change is possible.
MOTIVATION
People get confused all the time about
change. They feel they must be motivated to change. Therapists even accuse
people of not being motivated, not being ready, even not being able to change.
Motivation is not all or none. Sometimes people are 51%-49% in
favor of change. That is change. As a therapist, the goal is to help the
person increase the percentage of themselves that wants change and decrease the side that
does not want change. I look at 1 or 2 % change as being the ideal goal for initial
change since small changes leads to more small changes.
Next Steps
Feel free to browse the
web site to find interesting articles, self assessments, links, and my blog.
If you are a new client and are starting the change process, go the "new
client link" and download the initial paperwork. If at any point you
have questions, do not hesitate to contact me. Remember change is
possible.
This page was last edited on
08/25/2010
